Saturday, June 18, 2016

Deacon Keith Fournier: What I Will Do on Father's Day

Father and son
Father and son


CHESAPEAKE, VA (Catholic Online) - On Sunday, Father's Day in the United States, I will listen to my father's favorite song - and I will cry. 

It is Louis Armstrong classic "What a Wonderful World". Each father's day since my father Duval  died in 2001, in a melancholy mix of mourning and memories, I listen to that song and shed more than a few tears. As the years go by, its words and insights open up in their simplicity and wisdom. 

My father understood that the words of that song spoke to the things that really matter - once everything that pretends to matter in life is stripped away. As his life unfolded in those later years, when his congestive heart failure seemed to take its greatest toll, he loved the song and the sentiment it expressed even more. He grew in simplicity and learned that everything, even breath, is a gift.  

As the years have passed, my sense of loss has not dissipated. It has only changed. As I so often tell grieving family members at funerals in my ministry as a Deacon of the Catholic Church, the pain of loss on the memory of our deceased loved ones is just another manifestation of the eternal nature of love. Love is stronger than death.

My father grew in tenderness and compassion as he faced death. It is funny how difficulties and struggle, suffering and strife, seem to be the most effective means of refining us all. He finally died of the heart ailment which had claimed so much of his vigor. 

However, like with every struggle my father faced, he did not give up easily. He was a fighter and he did not want to go. In fact, I was at his death bed a couple of times, or so we thought it was his death bed. He decided he had more jokes to tell and more love to give. 

It was his fighting spirit which I have particularly grown to admire as the years have passed by. Thank God he passed it on to me. Oh, as a younger man, he perhaps fought some of the wrong battles. I know I certainly did. We all do. But, that does not really matter any longer.

Life seems to smooth it all out, and time presses us into deeper love.  I see now that it only gave him time to smooth off the rough edges of a hard life and to simplify. So it is doing with me, his son. I hope he is proud of me. I sure am of him. I love my father.   

How my father loved to hear from us as he grew older. Sadly, in retrospect, I regret just how little we really called him on the telephone. How I would love to have just one of those conversations today. I miss him. I think back on those final years of his life on this earth and I still have regrets. However, they move me to repentance and to amendment of life. 

Though we can't get those years back, time is meant become a tutor - as its highway stretches out before us. The lessons abound, if we have the eyes to see them and the heart to receive them. The memories of the time I did have with him take on new meaning as I walk along the path that he did, raising my family and trying to love, in both word and deed. 

Now, at sixty-one, I remember him in his fifties and his sixties. I cherish the last times we had more with each passing year. I share with my own grown children, and grandchildren, the stories, and his humor. In fact, I actually tell his very jokes, use his very expressions, both facial and verbal. In so many respects, I have become just like him. 

When I was in my twenties, that was one of my greatest fears. Now, it has become one of my greatest honors. How I love him more with each passing year.

Our earthly fathers and our relationships with them reflect the great meaning they symbolize in the eternal framework. Our Heavenly Father has given us His very name, His identity. In and through Jesus Christ, His only Son, we have now become "sons (and daughters) in the Son" - through our Baptism of new birth in water and the Spirit. 

We are a part of an eternal family, and as the apostle Paul told the Christians in Rome, nothing can separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord, not even death. (Romans 8:38, 39) 

I am always glad when Father's Day falls on a Sunday; it gives me a special opportunity to pray at Mass for my father. Standing at the altar, at the side of the priest, and raising the chalice filled with the very blood of the Savior, I will thank the Lord for my father and ask for the grace to be a good father and grandfather. 

Fathering is a great gift and a great responsibility. I cannot live it in its fullness without grace, the Divine Life of God which is given to us through Jesus Christ and mediated through our life in His church, in His Word and His Sacraments. In the Holy Eucharist we receive the One who is the Source and means of all grace. 

As a Catholic Christian, I know - not just hope- that I am still joined to my father in the communion which stretches through time and into eternity. Living in the Church is a participation in an eternal communion of love. At that moment in the Canon of the Mass when we pray for those who have died, I pray for him and will do so on Father's day. As a Deacon, I feel honored to be so close to the Altar when I offer that prayer.

I will, once again, deeply miss my father this Father's Day. He died sixteen years ago, but, I guess, following my own instruction, it simply shows me how much I loved him - and still love him. 

If you still have your father with you, love him openly and affectionately and let him know how important he is to you. Together, let us celebrate the Gift of Fatherhood and "kneel before the Father from whom every family in Heaven and on Earth is named" - in deep gratitude for the very gift of Fatherhood. 

Those profound words were written to the Christians in Ephesus by the Apostle Paul. (Eph. 3:14-21) The Greek word for Father and family are connected. Paul is using them i to make a profoundly important theological and ontological point. 

Fathers are the foundation of families, they give them identity and meaning in both life and in death. The Catholic Catechism says, "The divine fatherhood is the source of human fatherhood; this is the foundation of the honor owed to parents." (CCC#2214) 

So, I will also spend time with my own beloved wife, and children and grandchildren. I will thank them for the great privilege of being a husband, a father and a grandfather. And, I will try to foster a memory within them which they will call to mind after I have gone on to the Father's House. 

Happy Father's Day!

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Deacon Keith Fournier is an ordained minister, a Deacon of the Catholic Church, called to ministry in the broader Christian community. He and his wife Laurine have been married for forty years, have five grown children and six grandchildren..

Saint of the Day for Saturday, June 18th, 2016

St. Gregory Barbarigo was born in 1625, of a very old and distinguished Venetian family. A brilliant student, he embraced a diplomatic career and accompanied the Venetian Ambassador, Contarini, to ...continue reading

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Daily Reading for Saturday, June 18th, 2016

17 After Jehoiada's death the officials of Judah came to pay court to the king, and the king listened to their advice,
18 and they abandoned the Temple of Yahweh, God of their ancestors, for the worship of sacred poles and idols. Judah and Jerusalem incurred wrath because of this guilt of theirs.
19 He sent their prophets to lead them back to Yahweh; these put the case against them, but they would not listen.
20 The spirit of God then investedZechariah son of Jehoiada the priest. He stood up before the people and said, 'God says this, "Why transgress Yahweh's commands to your certain ruin? For if you abandon Yahweh, he willabandon you."
21 They then plotted against him and, at the king's order, stoned him in the court of the Temple of Yahweh.
22 Thus King Joash, forgetful of the devotion which Jehoiada father ofZechariah had displayed on his behalf, murdered his son, who cried out as he died, 'Yahweh will see this and avenge it!'
23 At the turn of the year, the Aramaean army made war on Joash. When they reached Judah and Jerusalem, they massacred all the nation's government officials and sent all their booty to the king of Damascus.
24 Although the invading Aramaean army was only a small body of men,Yahweh allowed them to defeat a very large army because they had abandoned Yahweh, God of their ancestors; thus they executed judgement on Joash. After they had retired -- for they left him seriously wounded--
25 his own retainers plotted against him to avenge the blood of the son of Jehoiada the priest and murdered him in his bed. When he died he was buried in the City of David, but not in the tombs of the kings.

Responsorial Psalm,Psalms 89:4-5, 29-30, 31-32, 33-34

4 I have made your dynasty firm for ever, built your throne stable age after age.
5 The heavens praise your wonders, Yahweh, your constancy in the gathering of your faithful.
29 I have established his dynasty for ever, his throne to be as lasting as the heavens.
30 'Should his descendants desert my law, and not keep to my rulings,
31 should they violate my statutes, and not observe my commandments,
32 'then I shall punish their offences with the rod, their guilt with the whip,
33 but I shall never withdraw from him my faithful love, I shall not belie my constancy.
34 'I shall not violate my covenant, I shall not withdraw the word once spoken.

Gospel, Matthew 6:24-34

24 'No one can be the slave of two masters: he will either hate the first and love the second, or be attached to the first and despise the second. You cannot be the slave both of God and of money.
25 'That is why I am telling you not to worry about your life and what you are to eat, nor about your body and what you are to wear. Surely life is more than food, and the body more than clothing!
26 Look at the birds in the sky. They do not sow or reap or gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not worth much more than they are?
27 Can any of you, however much you worry, add one single cubit to your span of life?
28 And why worry about clothing? Think of the flowers growing in the fields; they never have to work or spin;
29 yet I assure you that not evenSolomon in all his royal robes was clothed like one of these.
30 Now if that is how God clothes the wild flowers growing in the field which are there today and thrown into the furnace tomorrow, will he not much more look after you, you who have so little faith?
31 So do not worry; do not say, "What are we to eat? What are we to drink? What are we to wear?"
32 It is the gentiles who set their hearts on all these things. Your heavenly Father knows you need them all.
33 Set your hearts on his kingdom first, and on God's saving justice, and all these other things will be given you as well.
34 So do not worry about tomorrow: tomorrow will take care of itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.'

Thursday, June 16, 2016

Last priest survivor of Nazi prison camp dies aged 102

Fr Scheipers, imprisoned in Dachau, was viewed by the Nazis as a ‘fanatical proponent of the Catholic Church’
Fr Hermann Scheipers, the last surviving priest who was imprisoned in the notorious Dachau prison camp, has died in his home town of Ochtrup, Germany, at the age of 102.
He was arrested in October 1940 by German authorities because of his staunch Catholicism and taken to Dachau, near Munich, five months later. The camp held a large number of priests.
Fr Scheipers was sympathetic with Polish forced labourers, celebrating Mass with them and hearing their confessions prior to being taken into custody, reported KNA, the German Catholic news agency.
He later learned the reason for his arrest after coming across his Nazi file. “Scheipers is a fanatical proponent of the Catholic Church and thus likely to cause unrest among the population," the German authorities wrote.
Fr Scheipers recalled the camp commander’s greeting when he arrived with a group of internees: “You are without honour, without help and without rights. Here, you can either work or perish."
The greeting reflected the message on the large iron gate at the camp’s entrance, which read in German “Arbeit macht frei," which in English means “Work will make you free."
In the camp, KNA reported, Fr Scheipers, like many of the priests, “slaved away as a field worker, receiving mostly watery soup to eat. Persons who aren’t fast enough are whipped, hung by the arms or drenched in ice water" and many died.
In his memoir, “Balancing Act: Priest under Two Dictatorships," Fr Scheipers wrote: “The only thing one could do was escape or pray."
He escaped being sent to the gas chamber because his twin sister, Anna, pleaded with authorities in Berlin, warning that his death would stir the Catholic population around Ochtrup.
Fr Scheipers subsequently managed to escape from a death march to Bad Tolz, Germany, in 1945.
After the war, he returned to ministry in the Diocese of Dresden-Meissen only to again soon begin resisting another repressive regime in East Germany’s communist rulers. He later discovered the files the government kept on him and learned that he had been under surveillance by 15 undercover officers and that he was to face trial for distributing subversive propaganda.
“I was in Dachau for the exact same reasons," he was reported to have said, KNA reported.
He was born on July 24, 1913.

Daily Reading for Friday, June 17th, 2016

Reading 1, Second Kings 11:1-4, 9-18, 20

1 When Athaliah mother of Ahaziah learned that her son was dead, she promptly murdered all those of royal stock.
2 But Jehosheba, daughter of King Jehoram and sister of Ahaziah, surreptitiously rescued Jehoash son of Ahaziah from among the princes who were to be murdered, and put him with his nurse in the sleeping quarters; in this way she hid him from Athaliah, and he was not killed.
3 He stayed, hidden with her in theTemple of Yahweh for six years, while Athaliah governed the country.
4 In the seventh year, Jehoiada sent for the regimental commanders of the Carians and the guards, and had them brought to him in the Temple of Yahweh. He made a pact with them, put them on oath, then showed them the king's son. He gave them this order,
9 The regimental commanders did everything as Jehoiada the priest had ordered, and each one brought his men, those coming on duty on the Sabbathand those going off duty on the Sabbath, and reported to Jehoiada the priest.
10 The priest then issued the regimental commanders with King David's spears and shields, which were kept in theTemple of Yahweh.
11 The guards then took position, eachman with his weapons in his hand, from the south corner of the Temple to the north corner of the Temple, all round the altar and the Temple.
12 Then Jehoiada brought the king's son out -- crowned him and gave him a copy of the covenant; and they made him king and anointed him, and they clapped their hands and shouted, 'Long live the king!'
13 On hearing the people shouting, Athaliah joined the people in the Templeof Yahweh.
14 When she looked, there stood the king on a dais, as the custom was, with the officers and trumpeters at the king's side, and all the people of the country rejoicing and blowing the trumpets; then Athaliah tore her clothes and shouted, 'Treason, treason!'
15 Jehoiada the priest then gave the orders to the commanders in charge of the troops, 'Take her out under guard and put to death anyone who follows her.' 'For', the priest had already said, 'she must not be killed inside the Templeof Yahweh.'
16 They seized her, and when she reached the horses' entry to the palace, she was killed there.
17 Jehoiada made a covenant between Yahweh, the king and the people that they would remain Yahweh's people; and another one between the king and the people.
18 All the people of the country then went to the temple of Baal and demolished it; they smashed its altars and its images and killed Mattan thepriest of Baal in front of the altars. Thepriest made arrangements for the security of the Temple of Yahweh.
20 All the people of the country were delighted; the city, however, made no move. And Athaliah was put to death inside the palace.

Responsorial Psalm,Psalms 132:11, 12, 13-14, 17-18

11 Yahweh has sworn to David, and willalways remain true to his word, 'I promise that I will set a son of yours upon your throne.
12 If your sons observe my covenant and the instructions I have taught them, their sons too for evermore will occupy your throne.'
13 For Yahweh has chosen Zion, he has desired it as a home.
14 'Here shall I rest for evermore, here shall I make my home as I have wished.
17 'There I shall raise up a line of descendants for David, light a lamp for my anointed;
18 I shall clothe his enemies with shame, while his own crown shall flourish.'

Gospel, Matthew 6:19-23

19 'Do not store up treasures for yourselves on earth, where moth and woodworm destroy them and thieves can break in and steal.
20 But store up treasures for yourselves in heaven, where neither moth nor woodworm destroys them and thieves cannot break in and steal.
21 For wherever your treasure is, therewill your heart be too.
22 'The lamp of the body is the eye. It follows that if your eye is clear, your whole body will be filled with light.
23 But if your eye is diseased, your whole body will be darkness. If then, the light inside you is darkened, what darkness that will be!

Tuesday, June 14, 2016

Saint of the Day for Tuesday, June 14th, 2016

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Patriarch of Constantinople, modem Istanbul. He was born in Syracuse, Sicily, and builta monastery on the island of Chios. After some time in Constantinople, he was sent to Rome in 815 as the ...continue reading

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Daily Reading for Tuesday, June 14th, 2016

Reading 1, First Kings 21:17-29

17 Then the word of Yahweh came toElijah the Tishbite,
18 'Up! Go down to meet Ahab king of Israel, in Samaria. You will find him in Naboth's vineyard; he has gone down to take possession of it.
19 You are to say this to him, "Yahweh says this: You have committed murderand now you usurp as well. For this -- and Yahweh says this -- in the place where the dogs licked the blood of Naboth, the dogs will lick your blood too." '
20 Ahab said to Elijah, 'So you have caught me, O my enemy!' Elijahanswered, 'I have caught you! For your double dealing, and since you have done what is displeasing to Yahweh,
21 I shall now bring disaster down on you; I shall sweep away your descendants and wipe out every manjack of the House of Ahab, fettered or free in Israel.
22 I shall treat your House as I treated the house of Jeroboam son of Nebat and of Baasha son of Ahijah, for provoking my anger and leading Israel into sin.
23 (Against Jezebel too Yahweh spoke these words, "The dogs will eat Jezebel in the Field of Jezreel.")
24 Those of Ahab's family who die in the city, the dogs will eat; and those who die in the open country, the birds of the airwill eat.'
25 And indeed there never was anyone like Ahab for double dealing and for doing what is displeasing to Yahweh, urged on by Jezebel his wife.
26 He behaved in the most abominable way, adhering to idols, just as the Amorites had, whom Yahweh had dispossessed for the Israelites.
27 When Ahab heard these words, he tore his garments and put sackcloth next to his skin and fasted; he slept in the sackcloth; he walked with slow steps.
28 Then the word of Yahweh came toElijah the Tishbite,
29 'Have you seen how Ahab has humbled himself before me? Since he has humbled himself before me, I shall not bring the disaster in his days; I shall bring the disaster down on his House in his son's days.'

Responsorial Psalm,Psalms 51:3-4, 5-6, 11, 16

3 For I am well aware of my offences, my sin is constantly in mind.
4 Against you, you alone, I have sinned, I have done what you see to be wrong, that you may show your saving justicewhen you pass sentence, and your victory may appear when you give judgement,
5 remember, I was born guilty, a sinner from the moment of conception.
6 But you delight in sincerity of heart, and in secret you teach me wisdom.
11 do not thrust me away from your presence, do not take away from me your spirit of holiness.
16 Sacrifice gives you no pleasure, burnt offering you do not desire.

Gospel, Matthew 5:43-48

43 'You have heard how it was said, Youwill love your neighbour and hate your enemy.
44 But I say this to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you;
45 so that you may be children of your Father in heaven, for he causes his sun to rise on the bad as well as the good, and sends down rain to fall on the upright and the wicked alike.
46 For if you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Do not even the tax collectors do as much?
47 And if you save your greetings for your brothers, are you doing anything exceptional?
48 Do not even the gentiles do as much? You must therefore be perfect, just as your heavenly Father is perfect.'